When you get a reading from a reader, psychic, or a diviner, it can be an amazing experience. However, it can be frustrating if not heartbreaking when they decline to work with you. This post is to help you learn that it is not because they do not like you as a person- well, that can be the case, but chances are there is so much more to it! Sometimes a reader is not for you, and that also means sometimes, you aren’t for the reader. This is okay because there is a reader out there that is your perfect fit. In this post, I will specifically talk about why I may turn down an offer which others may relate to, as well as explain why I turn them down.
My first reason is that it is clear the potential client ask a question which I mentioned before I am uncomfortable answering. Now, just because they ask these questions does not mean they are a bad person. However, that does not change the fact I am unwilling to do said reading and therefore will say no to them. This is most common when it comes to third-party readings, but I also get questions that, really, they should ask a professional about. Some readers are okay with doing third-party readings, or financial/legal/health readings, and that is a whole other topic I do not wish to dive into (even though I kind have done so when it came to why I do not do third party readings). Always check to see if there are questions you should not ask! This is usually on an information page like mine, or in the description of a listing (preferably both). If the service provider has it listed, and the potential client asks anyway, that makes them look bad. That says “Hey, I do not respect you and your boundaries so I will ask questions I know you are uncomfortable with.” Even if that was not your intention, that is what it looks like.
Another reason is that they have too many requests, or are taking none at the moment! This can happen when the service provider has another job, something pops up in their life, or they suddenly got a flare of requests coming in. If this is the case, then simply wait for them to announce that they are accepting requests and send one in. Sometimes, the potential client misses the announcement that the readings are closed, so they should not worry about looking bad to them. However, if the reader mentioned that they are not taking any more multiple times, bolded, then it is very hard to miss and, therefore, may seem disrespectful. Rule of thumb, in my opinion, is to always contact the reader first to see their availability. If they do not respond to you within 2 business days, I would suggest trying to go somewhere else. The only exception is if you see, very clearly, they are taking readings, even if that means you got to wait a bit longer to get your request fulfilled.
Sometimes, a reader has to say no because the client is just being impossible to work with. Sometimes, clients will ask for more. They want it quicker, cheaper, and they will only accept the answer they want and nothing less! You can see why a reader will say “forget it,” and just refuse to work with them. I will not bring up specific clients of mine, but I have had some ask me for more than what was agreed for, I have had some pick the smallest reading (one card reading, summary instead of the whole reading), and then get mad at me for not delivering pages worth, and I have had some ask questions I have found difficult to work with so I tried to work with them to find a common ground we can both be happy with. I would be more than happy to work with a customer that is willing to work with me.
The final reason I will be getting into in this post is that their questions bore them. This isn’t to belittle their situation or their question, but if a reader has to deal with the same question multiple times a day, it can get bland. This can be common when someone is a regular, which I love and find that to be amazing, but they ask the same question too close together. It is one thing to ask for a “monthly checkup” and see what the cards feel they need to hear, I find that amazing. In fact, I feel even biweekly is good! However, if the customer asks “Hey, am I going to be happy at my job?” every week, and it is clear they are not doing anything about it, but keep asking advice, or “is x/y/z going to betray me/hurt my feelings?” and ask again for literally every single person who seems to enter their life, it can get frustrating. However, it can even be if they ask once but everybody else is asking that question, the reader can get bored of doing that reading. Some readers will not say no for this reason, but I will. That, or I will do the reading later on if I got other questions so it is spread out. The reason I will decline the reading is because I want to give my 100% to every single reading I do, free or not. If a question becomes repetitive, I may struggle to truly put my all into it unless I wait longer. So, I guess it isn’t a no for me, but more of a “not right now” kind of deal.
Now, I don’t want to just leave this blog on this note. That being said, I really want to mention a bit on how to ask better questions to readers! Please comment below if you want me to make a separate post on ways to ask better questions, and why it is so beneficial for you to do so! Also, in the separate post, I will go into more detail as to why these changes will do a lot!
Five Ways To Get Better Results
1. avoid asking the same question to multiple readers
2. don’t ask yes or no questions
3. avoid only asking for outcomes
4. be open to all answers, even ones you don’t want to hear.
5. know when to ask a question for a situation